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Tuesday, September 20, 2011

You Can't Take It With You...

I celebrated a big birthday last month ("celebrated" is a relative term, considering I had a week-old baby and was sleeping in 1-hour increments!).  My sweet husband got me some new earrings that I absolutely love.  I was wearing them the other day and he commented, "Are you going to wear those at home today?"  The earrings are kind of big, so maybe they seem a little silly to wear at home.  But they make me happy every time I put them on or look in the mirror, so I figure yes, I will wear them at home.  If I lose one, I will be sad, but that is just part of life.  And they certainly aren't the same as Kim K wearing her giant diamond studs swimming in the ocean!

His comment made me think about what I willingly use every day versus what I save for special occasions.  When I think about myself, with jewelry or furniture or clothes or silverware, I can't really find any logic behind what I use versus what I save!

SILVERWARE
 I think it drives some of my family members (who shall remain nameless) crazy that I have a set of silver in my kitchen drawer and that I throw it in the dishwasher after using it.  I bought it on eBay back when silver prices were much lower than they are now, for the purpose of using it every day.  It just makes me happy and makes food taste better (seriously!).  If I lose a piece or scratch it in the dishwasher, it's not the end of the world.  It's just silverware. 

CHINA
On the other side of the coin, I very rarely use my wedding china.  I love to look at it, and I wouldn't trade it for anything, but I am too scared to take it out of my china cabinet.  I know I should just use it, but I just can't bring myself to do it because I love it so much and would be heartbroken if I broke a piece.

LINENS
Do you have special embroidered hand towels in the guest bathroom or powder room that your own family members aren't allowed to touch?  Or pillow shams that will never be laid upon by a weary head?  Every morning I make up my bed with pretty bedding, but at the end of the day, I fold it back and don't actually use it at night.  Is it ridiculous?  Yes.  But I just can't bring myself to sleep on that perfectly pressed hemstitched sham. 

FURNITURE
I am embarrassed to admit that I lay a blanket over my sofa to keep it protected from crumbs, sticky little fingers, and wagging puppy dog tails.  Before anyone comes over, I take the blanket off and pretend like my sofa just magically stays clean.  And as much as I hate those arm covers on upholstered furniture, I use them (when no one is looking) to keep my chair arms looking neat and clean.   In reality, I would probably tire of furniture before I would wear it out, but I still can't help but try to protect it, even when a blanket makes it ugly for me to look at.  Of course, a more permanent answer to this problem is the slipcover.  I have never owned slipcovered furniture, but I do think the more tailored pieces can look good.

BAGS AND SHOES
Do you have a bag or shoes that are just too pretty to wear?  I typically carry my bags all over the place, but I am more careful with my shoes.  I find myself wearing less expensive shoes most of the time and saving my nicer ones for special occasions.  So my nicer shoes just sit in my closet collecting dust most of the time.

What about you?  What do you use without abandon, and what do you save/ protect for special occasions?  When you have anxiety about wearing something or using it, just try to remember to enjoy it.  After all, you can't take it with you...

13 comments:

Sheer Serendipity said...

I don't wait for special occasions to use most of my "stuff", because it is just "stuff". I don't have attachment to things, everything can be replaced. The only thing I really cherish is my wedding rings.
Have a great day!

Kerry said...

When I was single with 2 kids, I used my great-grandma's silver everyday and just handwashed it. Now that I am remarried with a total 5 kids---forget it. I miss using it, it just has a better feel.

traci zeller designs said...

I love this post! I use bags and shoes for sure - no worries for me there. I also don't worry with furniture, although I don't allow jumping on it or food/drink other than water anywhere but the kitchen ... so that really limits the harm that can be done! Linens ... hmmmm ... I just don't even think of my Leontine shams as for sleeping, so I suppose I don't use those, but I wouldn't have thought to. China and silver - guilty as charged. Those stay in the china cabinet (and silver in the safe) - mainly because I don't want to hand wash it afterwards. Perhaps most importantly - I did not realize it was a big birthday. Must celebrate!!

AgathaMChristie said...

WHAT is that silver? I love it!

Betsy said...

I still have a lot of my fine china in storage at my parents' house...and I've been married for 4 years...what does that say about me?!

The Matters of Style Girls said...

Agatha- it's Gorham Etruscan. I don't think it's in production anymore, but you can find it on eBay!

Gindy said...

I have the same Yurman earrings and wear them as my everday earrings. Love them-they go with everything!!!!

ArchitectDesign™ said...

Yes, this is HUGE for me. I like to say I use everything I have (and would use some like my grandmother's silver more often if I had more easy access storage in my kitchen) but then I just realized I cover my couch with a throw when it's just me to save it from crumbs!! The arms are protected by throw pillows I suppose but I just realized what a hypocrit I am! LOL

AgathaMChristie said...

Thank you! I have a huge lot of vintage sliver plate that has a Greek key pattern around the very geometric edge. It's fabulous and I love this one, too.

Splendid Sass said...

With the exception of my grandmother's china, I use it. For years I just cleaned or washed it and used it on holidays or when guest visited. Not now.
Teresa
xoxo

jgrigson said...

I that really your silver pattern? It is mine. I inherited it and have the family monogram. Problem is, I put mine in dishwasher and the knife handles became lose and also became battered as they are hollow. But I do love them.

Summer is a Verb said...

Um, I wouldn't take those earrings off for nothin. Not for one cotton pickin' minute. In fact, when I called the bff on Sunday and she said, oh, I'm just standing over the kitchen sink here in Stanley doing dishes dripping in Alahambra and not a soul around to appreciate it, I couldn't have been prouder...XXOO

Pigtown*Design said...

I inherited a ton of china, silver and crystal a few years ago and never used it. But when I moved earlier this year, I decided i'd use it all. i don't have children, and so i can use it and hand-wash it all... even after dinner parties. it makes me happy to eat a simple dinner of take-away chinese on a royal copenhagen dish, or swill some cheap champagne from a william yeoward crystal flute. why not?

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